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Cynic Meets Sunshine Podcast
Join us, Andre and Tanisha, a married couple of 26 years, as we share practical advice, honest stories, and plenty of laughs about building a strong and fulfilling relationship. With five kids, three grandkids, and nearly three decades of ups and downs, we’ve learned a lot about love, life, and weathering storms together. Tune in for real talk, relatable insights, and actionable tips to strengthen your own relationships—because nobody’s perfect, but together, we can all get better.
Cynic Meets Sunshine Podcast
Relationship Boundaries: Navigating Micro-Cheating and In-Law Dynamics
Boundaries serve as the invisible infrastructure of every healthy relationship—and in this candid conversation, we explore two critical boundary issues that can make or break your partnership.
First, we dive into the subtle phenomenon of "micro-cheating"—those small breaches of trust that don't cross into physical affairs but slowly erode the foundation of your relationship. From leaving your wedding ring at home when going out alone to maintaining secretive online conversations with ex-partners, these seemingly minor actions accumulate into significant trust issues over time. We explore the crucial question: does emotional intimacy without physical contact constitute cheating? The answer might challenge your perspective on relationship fidelity.
The digital landscape has completely transformed how couples navigate boundaries. We discuss practical approaches to social media interactions and phone privacy, offering a framework for maintaining transparency without sacrificing individual autonomy. If you've ever felt uncomfortable about your partner's online behavior—or questioned your own—this conversation provides valuable guidance for establishing healthy digital boundaries.
The second half of our discussion tackles external influences on your relationship, particularly from family members. We examine the delicate balance of maintaining close family connections while establishing your marriage as the priority relationship. The tension between spouse and in-laws creates some of the most challenging boundary issues, especially when cultural expectations come into play. We provide actionable strategies for establishing clear boundaries with family without causing unnecessary conflict.
Throughout the episode, we emphasize the importance of self-awareness and mutual respect. The simple question "Would I want my partner behaving this way?" serves as a powerful guide for maintaining boundaries that protect rather than restrict your relationship.
Have you established clear boundaries in your relationship? Share your experiences with us on social media, and let us know what relationship topics you'd like us to explore in future episodes.
Welcome, welcome everybody. Welcome to another episode of Cynic Meets Sunshine. We're your hosts. My name is Andre and this is my beautiful wife, Tanisha.
Speaker 2:Hey everybody.
Speaker 1:Over here looking like a bodybuilder with cap, shoulders and upper body's on point.
Speaker 2:Fresh out of a show Nice and lean.
Speaker 1:So we're back after a week off. We took a week off at your competition last week.
Speaker 2:Our Vegas adventure. So we went to Las Vegas for my very first IFBB Pro League wellness competition. For any of you that follow me on social media, you probably saw our updates. We posted some photos. I kind of gave everyone an update of how it went. I would say overall, it was a great experience.
Speaker 2:Competing at this level is completely different than me going and doing a regional show or a national show. These women that I was on stage with are top level wellness athletes. These are Olympians. It's a whole other caliber of athletes. So it was just an honor to even be able to compete at that level. So, yeah, that was really exciting. The show that I picked to do was amazing too. Like the promoter went all out. This was like an athlete show. They really like rolled out the red carpet for us. It was amazing. That part was awesome. Meeting the women was amazing. Hard part for me was I am a posing coach and I am practicing fluid posing, beautiful posing personality standing out on stage and I was feeling so chill leading up to this show backstage I was even thinking like I don't feel crazy nervous. This is weird. And the second my heels hit that stage like those nerves kicked in, like something I've never felt before, like I wasn't even able to control my body.
Speaker 2:I was there, but I was not there, like all that beautiful posing that I had practiced everything. I completely just did the most unflattering walk. I had absolutely no abdominal control, like all of the things that as bodybuilders, we learn to accentuate the good things of our body and hide our flaws. So if you have a wider waist, you're going to walk at an angle. You know all of these things, we know. I just let all of that go. So that was like a little like frustrating for me, but surprisingly, even that didn't take me out. I was just like it is what it is Like. This is what happened. I was super nervous, but I ended up feeling really good at the end of the day about the experience. I got feedback on the spot, which is amazing, instead of waiting weeks. So we know exactly what we need to do and we're going to go to Miami, all right.
Speaker 1:Yeah, miami in eight weeks, let's do it. You can take a negative situation Eight weeks, let's do it. You can take a negative situation. As long as you take some real actionable lessons learned away, then you turn that negative into a positive, and that's where your mindset is so that's awesome.
Speaker 2:Yeah, definitely some great takeaways from that. I think you've got to get your feet wet sometimes and then go on to the next one. Some people can just nail it out the box. For me that wasn't the case. I needed to do this, and I did learn so much that I know I'll take with me.
Speaker 1:Okay, yeah, what did you? Think though Did you like our Vegas adventure? Yeah, I had fun. I mean, it wasn't our typical Vegas.
Speaker 2:We got to play a little bit of blackjack. It was.
Speaker 1:Vegas, but we can do Vegas another time. I'm actually looking forward to getting my prep started.
Speaker 2:When do you officially start your cut? We don't really know Because everyone is asking me like what's up with Andre? When's he hitting stage? And aren't we thinking summer?
Speaker 1:Yeah, summer, yeah, late summer, that's what we're thinking. No summer.
Speaker 2:So we don't want to nail anything down.
Speaker 1:I'm going to nail anything down.
Speaker 2:When I'm ready, I will be ready well, I have to say this is the longest off season we've ever taken and you have made like some amazing growth. I don't know if you see it yourself, probably, but you have made some great changes. Chest back, everything has grown and I'm excited.
Speaker 1:That's the plan, yeah, and then your birthday is, uh, later on this week. 46, it's your 16th anniversary of your 30th birthday. Oh, okay, yeah, that's how you do it.
Speaker 2:yeah, I I'm excited for that too. I love my birthday week.
Speaker 1:Yeah, birthdays are fun. Birthday week, birthday month what else we got going on?
Speaker 2:Our son started back up football, so it's time to get busy with competition, football, summer prep. We've got family vacations coming up, so we're going to Miami for your competition and then our family.
Speaker 1:let me trick this summer in Destin, so that should be awesome.
Speaker 2:That should be a lot of fun. That'll be for Tiana's birthday.
Speaker 1:Birthday after birthday. So this week we thought we were going to do things a little different With the travel. We didn't have the time that we typically like to have. We go over a segment and different things that we're going to talk about in the podcast and we go over the outline.
Speaker 2:We don't have time for any of that. Action tips, yeah.
Speaker 1:So this week is going to be a little more just a discussion, and we're going to talk about boundaries.
Speaker 2:This is so good. There's a couple topics within the boundaries.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so the first one is micro-cheating.
Speaker 2:You might not know what that is and we can go over the definition of that I had never heard the term micro cheating, but I don't know if I'm just like out of the loop. Like you know, I'm older people. I'd never heard of micro cheating. However, when you started explaining everything to me, I know exactly what it is. I just didn't know there was that term.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and then the second one is in-laws and outlaws. This one, this one, is one I've been wanting to do for a while, because it really chaps my high when I see. Not chaps your high, it chaps my high, it gets me going, it gets my blood flowing. External people having influence in your relationship, whether it be your in-laws or relatives, friends, whatever.
Speaker 2:So those are, like our two main topics within boundaries.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:And I think those are good ones, and I think a lot of people can relate to both, because everybody has family and in this day and age most people have Internet and social media.
Speaker 1:Everyone's on social media.
Speaker 2:So I think these are important topics to hit and discuss because they can negatively impact a relationship if there isn't a level of respect and you aren't checking yourself.
Speaker 1:So it's probably a good idea if we define micro cheating. The definition of micro cheating refers to small breaches of trust in a relationship that don't pass the threshold into a physical affair. Examples include leaving a wedding ring at home when going out alone or secretly chatting with an ex partner online Wow. So I look at it like micro cheating, like micro tears. You get those little tears and over time they'll cause a break in a bone or something like that.
Speaker 2:All of those little things really add up too, and your partner does notice these things. Like, actually you brought up leaving your wedding ring at home right.
Speaker 2:So if these small actions, this signifies something larger to your partner, like why is he or why is she not wearing their ring? What message are they trying to convey when they're out? It signifies something larger to your partner, like, why is he or why is she not wearing their ring? Like, what message are they trying to convey when they're out? So it's little things and little acts of respect that you want to be mindful of for your partner, because they do break down trust and this will cause your partner to build walls and not be able to be so vulnerable with you. You know, because they kind of always are watching you. You can tell when somebody is just a little bit off.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like my partner's always putting fire emojis under that picture. And you know my partner's all. You know my partner's always doing heart eyes at this particular account. Or you know, oh, he doesn't ever wear his ring. You know these things. They are small, like you said.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but they cause micro tears over time. So let's start off talking about boundaries in the digital age that we live in. You and I got together prior to social media apps, so that was a long time ago, but nowadays people that are newly in relationships that's not the case.
Speaker 2:Right. Most of them are meeting on social media.
Speaker 1:Yeah. Meeting on social media yeah. Meeting on social media yeah. Where would you say, you draw the line between friendly and flirty behavior online? And then the second follow-up question is does emotional intimacy or secrecy without physical contact count as cheating what you got?
Speaker 2:The first one.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Okay. So I think here you know you have to use discretion and you have to just always have respect right Like so, I respect my husband. I know my husband respects me. So there's certain interactions that I'm going to be mindful of. Even though my intentions if I'm interacting with like a guy on social media I may have great intentions I need to think about what I comment what I say and make sure that it can't be misunderstood. Okay, I need to think about what I comment what I say and make sure that it can't be misunderstood. So where I draw the line is, say, because we're in the bodybuilding world right so we've got a lot of things in our feed.
Speaker 2:We've got shirtless guys, women in bikinis. I mean this is constant for us because we're in bodybuilding. It's pretty normal for Andre and I. So I might see a guy I know on social media just killing it for his show. But I need to be mindful. I think where I draw the line is anything that's flirtatious, I think, if it is uplifting in any way or acknowledging his hard work. Yes, I think it's acceptable. I also think, and here's a good thing to keep in mind in my opinion.
Speaker 2:How would I feel if Andre's not following this guy? He'll never see it right. Whatever, how would I feel if Andre was right here and read exactly what I wrote? Would it be misunderstood or would he be like oh yeah, I agree with you. He did a great job. It was good placing. If you have a funny feeling about what you're writing, or you're feeling nervous or you feel like you need to hide your phone or you don't want them to see, that might be a little red flag that maybe you know you're being a little out of pocket.
Speaker 1:No, there was a few things I heard in there. I heard intent. So I don't know your intent. So that's always a hard one. You can say well, I didn't intend for that. Well, no one knows your intent other than you.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I also heard that it's green-lighted if you're uplifting them or letting them know that you appreciate their hard work.
Speaker 2:Now, because you could be like yeah, girl, that booty, that booty, that booty, it gives a burn Okay that's enough uplifting.
Speaker 1:Okay, all right, I'm trying to get darn darn, I'm trying to get in there.
Speaker 2:So you know there's certain things I will say that are uplifting, and what I mean by uplifting is just like acknowledging them.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think I know what you mean by uplifting, yeah, boundaries.
Speaker 2:There too, I think, as long as there's a level of respect and you and I we really know the same people, we're friends with the same people. So if I'm congratulating a guy on doing well in his competition, or whatever, it's probably someone you also are talking to. There's not a lot of side relationships that you and I have or friendships that you and I have that are separate.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Some people that might not be the case, but yeah, for you and I, I. That is how but emotional intimacy without the physical is still cheating in my book in your book.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so explain to me why I don't know.
Speaker 1:I think emotion, if you have an emotional connection to someone that is probably in my and I know this might be controversial, but in my mind that's probably a little more of a betrayal than a sexual, a strictly sexual betrayal Like you're my person and I'm your person. If you were sharing things that you didn't share with me with another person, if you were having feelings and talks with someone that you didn't have with me, I would feel very hurt. Like the level of betrayal is probably just a little over the physical. Yeah, I'm gonna get mad over the physical, but it's a little different. So I think emotional intimacy without physical is definitely in my book. Cheating, yeah.
Speaker 2:So I'm going to have to agree with you on that, because physical cheating is unacceptable, right. It's a betrayal, it's lying, it's deceitful, all of those things. However, there are instances where it's like you know, it can never really be explained, but it's like something happened. This person had an impulse or whatever, but emotional. There is a constant deposit and this is something where you guys are investing in each other to build an emotional connection.
Speaker 1:Yes, that's something deep.
Speaker 2:And if you were to decide to forgive your spouse for physical cheating, that's like sorry, like I messed up, I slept with this person. I messed up, I slept with this person, I messed up, I kissed this person. But trying to forgive and work through emotional cheating is so much more difficult, because it's like you see your spouse hurting over letting this person go, or I mean that's going to be difficult, right, because you see that they've developed a connection.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:So I have to totally agree. I 1,000% think that emotional intimacy without physical is cheating.
Speaker 1:Maybe I shouldn't have added the two emotional intimacy and secrecy, because emotional intimacy is totally over the line. Right here's a line that's emotional intimacy.
Speaker 2:Well, because maybe you're having what about?
Speaker 1:secrecy, just just being just being secretive. You find out that I had a whole secret account on some social media app. So maybe I'm not emotionally involved with someone, but I'm being very secretive. If that comes to life, is that cheating?
Speaker 2:So that shows intent. In my opinion, if you're being secretive and you've got secret accounts and you've got all these things, it goes back to what you just said. It's also a level of betrayal. It's like you've got side things going on. There's some kind of intent there. There really is, because what is the purpose? You do have relationships, unfortunately, where there are high levels of insecurity and you have one partner who is extremely jealous for no reason actually. They just have issues within themselves, and so you might have a partner who finds themselves being really careful about their interactions and not wanting to be secretive, but almost feeling like they can't be open because they have to walk on eggshells.
Speaker 1:It'll cause too much shit.
Speaker 2:It'll cause too much.
Speaker 1:Yeah. So, since we're on the subject of privacy Secrecy, secrecy, really, yeah. So should couples have access to each other's social medias, their phones, and should that be something in your mind?
Speaker 2:so in my opinion, it's fine. I could forget my phone. I can give andre my phone. Andre gets on, can get on my instagram to you know, message something back for me. He can check a text. He can go through and look for a photo. There's really. I don't start sweating, I don't start freaking out, so to me it's a yes, I, I don't have any issue. He has my passwords to everything. I mean, god forbid, something happened to me, right?
Speaker 1:Yeah he needs to access everything remember when your grandmother died and your grandpa, I like, stuck for months. He had no password, he had no clue, yeah anything her whole, everything that was hers.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it was hers alone, yeah, and that's kind of how I grew up. Like you don't get in Nana's purse, you don't get into this.
Speaker 1:These are the privacy.
Speaker 2:These are her things, but for me and Andre everything is pretty wide open and this is something that's going to depend on every couple. It doesn't mean right or wrong.
Speaker 1:And we're not saying that's right for us Right. What we're doing doesn't mean you have to share everything with your spouse and have them on your phone. You know, 24 7. All I'm saying is for me it's a non-issue for you to have my passwords. Yeah, like, if I think about that, what would be a valid reason for you not to have access to my phone? I can think of a few, and none of them are good. They all deal with. I'm trying to be secretive. There's something I don't want you to have access to.
Speaker 1:And it's not just my phone, it's the way I'm communicating, who I'm communicating with.
Speaker 2:Something you're nervous about me seeing. If you're feeling that way, then you know they're inappropriate. You know they're inappropriate. So yeah, for me the sharing passwords and all that is a non-issue.
Speaker 2:You know, what I will say there, though. Yeah, because how we're saying it's not across the board. What works for us doesn't work for everyone else. There are cases where, when you have an insecure partner because this is something I've seen recently with friends of mine and people who are maybe in toxic or unhealthy relationships sometimes they are reserving some privacy because they have a partner who has such deep-seated insecurity that it's just like the littlest things can set them if you're in a toxic relationship, we should always probably make a side note to that we're referring to like a healthy yes, healthy functioning relationship.
Speaker 2:I think for me I if you feel weird about it, if you wouldn't want your partner to read it, if they couldn't go online and scroll and see exactly what you wrote and feel no kind of way about it, just like, oh okay, you know, and keep it moving and it doesn't sting, it doesn't anything, then you're probably fine. But you should police your own actions and you should constantly be building trust and protecting your spouse's heart and their feelings. That will contribute to a healthy marriage. Because that's why I don't really ever feel the need to check your phone, it's why I don't go through your messages.
Speaker 2:It's why I don't worry when you go to the gym for two hours and I'm not at that session. I really know that you take care of yourself. You don't treat anybody in a way that you wouldn't treat them right in front of me. So I think that it's important that we police ourselves, yeah, and that you are just mindful of your spouse's feelings. You're not single.
Speaker 1:So that was micro-cheating. The next topic that I wanted to dive into was in-laws and out-laws, so we are referring to external people. It does not have to be a mother-in-law, father-in-law, it could be cousins.
Speaker 2:It could be best friends.
Speaker 1:Ex-partner that is your best friend. You need to keep those situations. But those people, external people that have influence on your relationship and that kind of it just drives me wild when I see what was the show that we used to.
Speaker 2:I Love a.
Speaker 1:Mama's boy or something, yes. And then there's some nuts by a fiance and family family or fiance, whatever it is. Oh no, gross some balls already. So I know that there are some family dynamic where the family is very close. Yeah, they, and that's awesome.
Speaker 2:Our family is very close.
Speaker 1:Yes, this family, not our extended, but I know when my son grows up, like right now, we're we're raising him to, to live a certain way, to believe in a certain thing. But at a certain age he's going to grow up, he's going to get married, he's going to go off and it's going to be his life to live Right. I don't think that you or I should have our hands in that pot. That's between him and his wife and what they do, how they do it is on them. It's not. We've lived our life, we're having our marriage. We don't need to manage their marriage as well. This is our life. Let him live his. So that's how I feel.
Speaker 1:Like it really irks me when I see the people not being able to a mother-in-law and a wife and not being able to be like look, mom, stop, you've had your life. I know you raised me, I love you, but you stay on your side. You do, you do you, and we're gonna manage our marriage how we, how we want to. I don't need your um input input as much if it you much, if it kind of crosses that line. There's nothing wrong with input. We give input when it's asked for.
Speaker 2:Because we have two of our children that are married. For me. I'm very mindful here. I trust my kids' decisions, but if there's times they come to me for advice, like you said. I'm going to give input, I'm going to give advice. I'm going to also always try and be objective. I'm not always going to be like my daughter's right. I'm going to be real with her and let her know like hey, maybe you should apologize to your husband for this or that.
Speaker 2:So I'm always trying to be mindful of the marriage. I think the thing that irks you so much is when you've got these mothers who are jealous of the wife and they're creating issues, and then you can't stand it when the son doesn't speak up and say and put his wife first. That's really what it is.
Speaker 2:That's what it comes down to in relationships when you have outside influences. If your husband and his mother are super close, there needs to be a level of respect. It's his mother, right. So you respect his mother as long as she's kind to you, and you respect that. That is his mother. However, no matter what, once you are married, your mother no longer comes before your wife. Your daddy doesn't come before your wife.
Speaker 2:Your best friend, it's like if she's got problems going on and things like that, you be there for her, but she should never.
Speaker 1:That relationship should never come above your spouse and her input should never so greatly affect how you treat your spouse and if it does, I think it's like if you allow that to go on, then you can't have issue with the state of your marriage when it starts to take, because you didn't put things in the right order In order.
Speaker 2:And what you can do, though, is you can reorder. So if you're in that situation, you can reorder. I will never forget when I was about to meet Andre's mom for the first time Okay, I was so nervous because I was only 19.
Speaker 1:Do you know why you were nervous? Yes, why were you?
Speaker 2:nervous. I was nervous because Andre had told me stories of his mom for years. Okay, how she snatched a few girls up in school you know she didn't play around, and so I was like, oh my God, like I hope this doesn't go left, yeah, and I was thinking to myself, like you know, I hope his mother likes me, because I thought that would really affect us if your mother doesn't like me, but immediately before we left he's like you, told me you have nothing to be worried about Like.
Speaker 2:If she doesn't like you, because we were going to stay at her house, If she doesn't like you, we're getting a hotel and we're going to enjoy our trip in San Antonio.
Speaker 1:And then we'll come on home, and it is what it is.
Speaker 2:Whether she likes you or not, you're my wife and that's it. So he showed me at that moment, very early on, I'm his priority. He loved his mother, but it did not matter, he was gonna protect me period. I wasn't he wasn't taking me into a lion's den.
Speaker 1:No, I didn't have any issue with blurred lines.
Speaker 2:I knew exactly where the lines should be and I would ensure that those were the lines yeah, and I just really appreciate that and I think there's, you know, there's other dynamics, there's other people who you know and cultural differences and things like that, where you know you really take care of your mother and you bring her in the home. Perhaps. So, she might have a lot more access to the relationship.
Speaker 1:Access is fine. I'm referring to influence Right.
Speaker 2:And even in that case there's a way to have balance. If it is your culture to have your mother in the house helping you guys and she's a big part of the relationship that's okay. You can still tell her mom. You don't tell my wife what to do, okay.
Speaker 2:We love you and you're here with us, and we respect you and if the mother-in-law's in the home, you know there's just a way to set those boundaries and just remind her. You know that your wife is the woman of that house and you just, if you lay out the law early, it'll be respected. It's those people who just let it drag on and drag on. The other person sees that and they follow suit. Okay, I don't have to respect her. You know he's not going to make me respect her.
Speaker 2:So I can continue to just make them miserable and hopefully push her out. You know, you never know what their intent is is especially those, the shows you're referring to how do those shows is because ratings or what I can't watch them.
Speaker 1:I literally can't get through a whole episode.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I cannot do it yeah but some people must love that and you really do have these people who are just so torn between, like wife and mother. Um, it's really sad to see, because in most cases, if they really would just be assertive and put it down, your mom's gonna fall in line.
Speaker 1:Your mom loves you, she's your mom. Yeah, she loves you.
Speaker 2:She's gonna fall in line but when you are just soft about it and you don't speak up for your spouse she thinks she's protecting you.
Speaker 1:And yeah, yeah, the bad wife. Yeah, all right. How do you establish boundaries with in-laws without causing unnecessary conflict? Uh, that was one of the questions.
Speaker 2:I think that's best established out the gate. If you already have like a weird dynamic, it's going to be a lot more difficult to backtrack. So if you are starting a relationship, this is really good information to have leading into it, so you can just lay the groundwork from day one. You know, um, but backtracking I think you just have to be honest, right? Yeah, you be honest.
Speaker 1:Like listen, this isn't working. That's my motto in life Right, Just honest.
Speaker 2:Like. It's a hard conversation to have with people you love, but if they love you, they're not going to put you in a situation where you're in pain and you're conflicted because you're having to play mediator.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's definitely stressful trying to play both sides playing mediator. Yeah, it's definitely stressful trying to play both sides. Yeah, I'm trying to calm you down and make sure you understand. No, it's, we're still good. You know, I love you, you're important, and then you're yelling at me because I'm not putting you first and I gotta go over here and yeah, it's, it's stressful and, honestly, this is something you've taught me too, about just being direct and being assertive yes it's really difficult because I like to have a soft delivery, a sugar-coated delivery.
Speaker 2:It's very difficult sometimes to just be direct like that. But I will tell you from being with this man for so many years, when I am just direct and straightforward, it's like a weight off your shoulders because you were able to convey what you felt. It's done, it's out there and now you can heal, move forward.
Speaker 1:So I would say honesty and direct conversation, direct conversation, because a lot of times, when you call yourself sugarcoating things, what's happening is you're losing some of the intention, the intent in the message, the point is not coming across.
Speaker 2:It's watered down?
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's watered down and they don't get it, whereas when I tell them the point is not coming across, it's watered down, yeah, it's watered down, and they don't get it, whereas when I tell them the point is made, the point is made, they got it. Yeah. When I tell them.
Speaker 2:It's got to probably be said two more times yes, because it wasn't, they didn't understand it. Yeah, it wasn't fully observed, and that just comes down to personality too. Some of us are going to struggle more with being direct, but it is a necessary evil, especially in these situations I wouldn't call it an evil, but yeah. Yeah. Well, you're probably learning even from our podcast, to be direct. But watch your tone.
Speaker 1:Like how you said, how you can do this in a way that doesn't cause conflict, you know be mindful of your delivery, because you're not trying to be hurtful. No, most of the time. Yeah, is there anything else you want to talk about in either one of those micro cheating or in-laws and outlaws?
Speaker 2:I think I just really want, like, the main point that we're trying to convey here is we're discussing boundaries like within social media, boundaries within the relationships in your life, your family, your friends, things like that. The main takeaway is when you are married and you have a wife or you have a husband, that person really should be prioritized and you really are causing a breakdown in the relationship If you are doing things such as the micro cheating, if you're putting other people ahead of them. These things are all noted by your spouse and they're hurtful and over time, this causes a disconnect and this will make it where you cannot maintain a healthy relationship. So if you want to have a closeness, a healthy marriage, a marriage that thrives and grows, and a partner who will really stand by you, they need to feel prioritized and supported. And if you know right now that you're not doing that, you're doing little things, leaving your ring, you're being inappropriate on social media, you're putting family members ahead of them.
Speaker 2:I would suggest addressing it immediately and watch the shift in your partner's behavior. When they feel loved, respected through action, they'll feel trust. They will, you will start to rebuild trust and you'll start to see a softer side of your partner. I can almost guarantee what about you, what's your trust? And you'll start to see a softer side of your partner. I can almost guarantee what about you.
Speaker 1:What's your main takeaway you want people to have from these boundaries? I've got to delete my other accounts that you don't know about. No big booty hoes on my feed.
Speaker 2:You have a big booty hoe.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but no other big booty hoes on my feed. No eggplant emojis. I could do fire emojis if it's.
Speaker 2:I can't do eggplant emojis. I thought, oh, okay.
Speaker 1:Can I do fire emojis? There's no fire emojis, only one, a singular fire emoji, and I get one per week, so I have to use it properly. Is that what that was? I?
Speaker 2:mean here's the thing you police yourself, you. I mean here's the thing you police yourself. You police yourself how I'm behaving. Is this how I would want my spouse?
Speaker 1:to behave. What would you just do? What would Andre do?
Speaker 2:Like, if I behave this way, is this how I would want Tanisha to behave with a guy? If I behave this way, is this how I would want Andre to behave with another?
Speaker 1:woman. So what's good for the goose is good for the woman. It's like you just you know you're got to do to police yourself.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm all for it, boundaries is the key word here, though people. So all right, what are we talking about next week? So next week we might just put out a poll and kind of see what you guys would like to hear. So we'll probably post one to our social media, see what everybody wants to hear if not. There's so many little topics just like this that we feel are so important and and really relevant instagram, facebook, t TikTok as long as that's still around.
Speaker 1:Yeah, All the things like subscribe.
Speaker 2:Also, feel free to share this. If you have friends, couples, people wanting to be in relationships, share the information to anyone you think would benefit and tag us. We really appreciate the support. We are excited to be doing this with you guys, and please be sure to interact in our polls, because that really does help us come up with content.
Speaker 1:Yeah, drive the content. Okay, well, until next time, you guys watch your boundaries.
Speaker 2:Yep, don't cross those lines, don't cross the boundaries, all right.
Speaker 1:Peace, bye, bye.
